Our parents had parents too—they were wounded as children, too—and they didn’t know any more about how to get it right in this life than we do. Most of us are not victims of our parents, so much as we AND our parents have all been living for years as the effect of the unresolved, fear-based energies permeating this world. None of us deserves blame and ALL of us deserve compassion. Sometimes you can’t really forgive your parents until you have allowed yourself to cry for them.
You are not IN the universe, you ARE the universe, an intrinsic part of it. Ultimately you are not a person, but a focal point where the universe is becoming conscious of itself. What an amazing miracle.